No One Dies from Divorce
I’m Jill Coil, the author of the book and docuseries “No One Dies from Divorce.” But with the mental, emotional, financial, physical, and spiritual toll that divorce takes on people, the scope is so big that I decided to create a podcast, so this can be an ongoing conversation.Divorce sucks. I know because I’m a divorce attorney and have divorced hundreds of clients at this point. I also went through a separation myself with my husband. Though our journey ultimately did not end in divorce, it gave me personal insight and empathy into the pain and turmoil of my clients’ lives. So if I can use my experience to save you from some of the heartache, confusion, stress, anxiety, or unknowing, our sole mission for this podcast will have been met. Remember, I am an attorney, but I am not your attorney. I’m inviting other divorce attorneys, relationship experts, mental health professionals, fitness and health coaches, spiritual leaders, and financial advisors, as well as plenty of people just like you, who are going through or have been through divorce, to talk about their journeys.You’re not alone. You can do this. Let me help you to not only survive through, but also thrive after your divorce. We can use our trials as a pivot to become a better version of ourselves. Let’s get through this together.
No One Dies from Divorce
Michelle Thomas: What Family Law Attorneys Want Clients to Know
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Jill Coil
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Season 1
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Episode 27
Prolific DC divorce attorney, Michelle Thomas, and I are discussing industry secrets and tips about how to hire the best attorney for your case, how lawyers bill clients, and how to avoid costly mistakes in your divorce.
Show Notes:
Don’t treat your attorney like your therapist! Let us handle the legal stuff so you can focus on your mental and emotional health. Find a therapist, friend circle, spiritual advisor, etc.
Hiring the right attorney for you is one of the most important decisions about your divorce.
How to hire the right lawyer for your case:
- Ask for referrals from friends and colleagues
- Do initial consultations with at least 2 attorneys. Ask:
- what percentage of your practice is devoted to family law?
- are you a trial lawyer or settlement lawyer?
- do you have time to take my case? Find out how fast you can expect responses/communication from them.
- Make sure all your questions have been answered clearly by the end of the consultation so you can make an informed decision.
How to save money during a divorce:
- Be cooperative with your lawyer; comply with their requests and needs and organize your records for them so you don’t have to pay them to do that. If they have to follow up with you repeatedly, that will add up too.
- Be mindful of how much you talk to your lawyer. Is this really something you need to speak to your attorney about? Or can you talk to your therapist or vent to a friend?
- If you are seeking revenge on your spouse, that will cost you. The more contentious your divorce is, the more filings your attorney will have to file. Can’t be petty; have to be willing and ready to negotiate.